Successful relationships have many pieces working right. Three of them include the act of sharing, utilizing “We” statements, and creating opportunities.
Sharing is caring. Sharing allows partners to come closer to together in their relationship. The act of sharing allows partners to let go of selfish tendencies and build partnership. Below are fun experiences that allow couples to push their relationship to a healthier level.
- Share your food.
- Let your partner shower first.
- Put the baby to bed.
- Give your partner some of your breakfast pancakes.
- Give your partner some of the left-over allowance you have.
- Let your partner sit next to you or on your lap.
- Share your last beer.
- Read your child a bed time story together.
- Share the book you just read.
- Share a lottery ticket or price you just won.
- Share the last delicious sips of your Starbucks coffee.
We statement. Using “we” more often in your relationship allows partners to feel inclusion. As a couple’s therapist, I encourage couples to increase the practice of “we” statements. Examples aimed to improve your relationship are listed below.
- We are a match made in heaven.
- We are awesome together.
- We certainly know how to make love.
- We are successful.
- We have a beautiful home.
- We make money to pay bills, vacations or our child(s) tuition.
- We are having problems with family.
- We are experiencing a difficult time raising our child.
- We have a strong relationship.
Opportunities. Create opportunities to demonstrate love as often as possible. One my favorite books is the 5 love languages. It helps couples understand their way of accepting love.
Most of the time people think that there is a place and time for everything such as a place and time for kissing or holding hands. What people further presume is that physical gestures create emotional connection which are only seen as kissing, holding hands, hugging, cuddling or sex.
There are endless creative ways to show your partner that they are loved.:
- While watching a movie at home give a foot massage.
- While driving put your hand on their thigh.
- While walking through a park have frequent touches around the hand, waist, and arm.
- Write a love note.
- Clean your partners car without being asked.
- Complete your partners chores or duties.
- Allow your partner to take a day for self-care.
As a relationship counselor, I enjoy helping couples understand how to work together in difficult moments. I enjoy reminding partners, to love and to cherish each other. If you would like to explore relationship counseling, please call me 336-707-1723.
For more supportive relationship help, start reading Couple’s Workbook: Making Your Relationship Work.