Common Things That Hold People Back From Being Their Authentic Self
One thing most people want to do in life is transform. So, what’s holding you back from making that transformation?
We want to grow and become the best version of who we are. I want to share common things that hold us back.
If you want to be a better person, a better teacher, a better husband, or a better dad, then check out my list of things that are holding you back. Once you know what is holding you back, you can then engage in the process of work.
These are things that could be holding you back:
- Self-blame.
- Fear of rejection.
- Over-thinking.
- The fear of change.
- The fear of judgment.
Hopefully, you understand what is holding you back and restricting you from blossoming into the best version of yourself. I think you can be the best version of yourself! I believe in you, and I know that you can do it. If you need a starting point, let this be your starting point.
Once you know what’s holding you back. Then you can start to become your authentic self. Growing into your authentic self is a journey that can be achieved. You want to wake up and love who you are and love the life that you’re living.
There’s a process of becoming your authentic self. Have you ever Googled how to become your authentic self? You will still find yourself trying to figure it out. I will walk with you on this journey and share clear points of direction.
As you move closer to becoming your authentic self, please continue to focus on giving yourself, love. You can do this by using what is called self-soothing exercises. Below is a video that goes over a few examples:
Write Down Your Values
Let’s first start with values. My name is Juan, and I value my family. I allow it to become a light in my life. I’m always thinking about how I can spend time with my family. We need to write down a list of our values. If you want a place to start, then get on Google and write down examples of values. For instance, wisdom, family, art, kindness, and religion are all values. Don’t feel overwhelmed, instead embrace them. Then, write down all of the values that connect with you. After you write down your values, then put them into action. I value family, so I work on spending time with them. That is an example of me putting my value into place.
Reflect On Your Interactions
Reflect on what other people have said about you. Think about the interactions you’ve had and pull out ten that have been pivotal. Think about how this person would describe you. Would they say you are professional or kind? Would they say that you are considerate of others? How do they describe you? On a clean sheet of paper, write down those ten people that you genuinely respect and find important in your life. Then, write down how they would describe you. If you want to go above and beyond, reach out to those individuals and see what they say. Lastly, think if those things align with your values. As you reflect, see what you are willing to let go of. Maybe who you are now is way different than the person you were before.
I dive into this topic on my YouTube channel. Watch it here: How To Become Your Authentic Self.
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