Steps To Overcome Relationship Problems
Learn how to make your relationship a priority, stop the blame game, and grow together.
People can attain what they want if they choose to put all their energy and attention towards it. Fear and doubt are often what pushes individuals away from the journey that they have committed to. The journey of loving their partner and desiring a successful relationship.
In relationships, you must work your butt off to fight for what you want. To work with your partner and have the same vision and mission in mind.
Below is a two-step system to make changes happen.
Step 1: Start with one problem to address in your relationship.
Together, consider one, not two or a dozen problems. Just one. I want you to write down one problem your relationship is facing.
Below, write down answers to the following:
- Your thoughts to what created the problem.
- Triggers that provoke the problem.
- Emotions or behaviors that led to the problem.
- Discuss the last example that led to the problem. Please be as specific and detailed.
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Step 2: What can be done to overcome the relationship problem.
Let’s transition to what you and your partner are currently doing to overcome the problem. If you have no solution, then let’s focus on creating one.
Earlier you should have written down a lot of detail around the foundation of the problem. The details are a map aimed to help you see the problem and not feel overwhelmed with the conflict and tension coming from the problem.
If you are not finding answers, it’s okay. One of the beauties of counseling is that it’s much like the bag Mary Poppins carries around. There is a vast amount of ways to work through problems.
I want you to review the answers and reflect on it several times a week. Gain understanding around it to the point in which you can either anticipate actions or during the process of the problem stop yourself from continuing engagement.
The success to anticipate actions or during the process of the problem stopping yourself from continuing engagement allows the entire process of the problem to be less frequent.
Consider if the problem had a 10-step process. Previously you took its entire course. Now you can either stop it prior from taking place or stop it in the middle of its process. Either change is better than what was taking place.
Earlier I asked for you to make yourself more acquainted with the list below:
- Your thoughts to what created the problem.
- Triggers that provoke the problem.
- Emotions or behaviors that led to the problem.
- Discuss the last example that led to the problem. Please be as specific and detailed.
Now I would like for you to add a really simple habit to your daily schedule. Each day wake up with the same goal as your partner.
The goal is:
“I want to wake up and treat my partner how I would love to be treated each and every day.”
The simple answer here is to treat your partner with love, compassion, and endless support.
Wake up each day to make them smile. The more you continue to engage in this habit, the less the problem will appear as you are directly combating the problem with this goal. Lastly, if you continue to feel a roadblock, I want to encourage you to commit to a friendly outreach to a local counselor.
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