Hi I’m Melissa.
I love helping teens that feel anxious and depressed learn how to feel worthy, build self-love, and develop inner strength!
Understanding Group Therapy
6 participants talking about their deepest emotional struggles. Sharing highs and lows. Group therapy is, in my opinion, an amazing environment that helps people come together over common issues and gain confidence and education to move forward.
As a therapist that works with teens, I tell parents that the benefits of teen therapy start with a spike in energy. Teens experience a change in mood that aids them in learning their mental health difficulties and building coping skills to live the life that each desire.
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- Skills to overcome emotional challenges
- A strong support system
- Learn to love oneself
- Learn to overcome the inner self-critical voice
- Become comfortable in your own skin
- Build self-esteem and self-confidence
- Avoid shutting down or harmful habits/behaviors
- Practice healthy coping skills
- Challenge negative thoughts
- Create fulfilling relationships
With the impact of the COVID- 19 Virus.
The teen group is offered online – video. Which your teen should love!
Cost of Group?
Group fee is $40.00 per session. All participants must complete registration prior to showing up. Please complete the form on the top of the page or contact Juan at firstname.lastname@example.org to register.
Please continue to complete the intake form below so that I can have you registered on the waiting list if you are interested.
***Space is limited to 6 participants. This ensures that each in the group can have a voice, gain skills, and build a meaningful experience. Group ages range from 12 to 18 years.
6 teens come together. As a group, we engage in therapeutic games that promote discussing the really bad moments and sharing the bright ones. As the therapist, I provide educational insight and therapy techniques that can be used at home, school and in life. The goal for each participant is to provide the skills needed to achieve their version of happiness. I understand that happiness is a broad term. For that reason, I find that the term allows Teens to search for what helps them get out of bed, smile, or laugh. This is a real group. With real-life experiences.
Supportive Tools for Parents and Teens:
As a professional counselor, I love working with teens and building “real” connections that provide skill building. The very skills that allow people to overcome emotional challenges like peer pressure, anxiety, or sadness.
A GUIDE TO HELPING YOUR TEEN OWN THEIR WORTH IN RELATIONSHIPS
Healthy relationships start with preserving self-respect in our own relationships and with oneself. Often, the challenge for teens can be external. These are people, that we hope to build relationships with that can disappoint us.
Teens should understand that they must focus on their self-respect to establish healthy relationships. This can be done by focusing on questions like “Is this relationship fair to me?” or “am I compromising my self-worth in this relationship?”
I like to think that we all have some sort of “spider sense”; yes, the same spider sense that Spider-man has. Our “spider sense” acts like an alarm reacting feelings of discomfort, stress or insecurity.
Teens often face situations that trigger the “spider sense” due to the social complexities that follow them. For example, if you are asked to meet up with some friend’s after school, you do not need to feel “forced” to engage in the activity or “feel the need to apologize” if you are unable to go. Instead, it’s simply okay to say no. To say that you cannot go because you are wanting to take time to yourself. Maybe for homework or self-care.
When I work with teens in group counseling sessions, one of the core areas of focus is building value. I work with teens to learn their value and understand how that impacts relationships. Without it, relationships can become problematic often leading teens to feel “pressured”, “bullied”, or “discomfort”.
As a teen, or parent to a teen, try to focus on what your values are and how they line up with relationship building. For instance, you could focus on “how you want to be treated in a relationship” or “deal breakers in relationships”.
Building worth in relationships demand honesty. What this means is that transparency and truth must be part of the relationship. For example, if you feel mistreated in the relationship, discuss this with your friend versus allowing time to past. Be real. Be your genuine self without worrying that it’ll end the relationship.
Relationships will have their ups and downs. They will be tricky and at times push you to test boundaries. Often the hurt in relationships takes place when we feel lonely or are desperately fishing for a friend. Remember, focus on your values, truth, and self-respect all as core parts of building worth in your relationship.
Lastly, as a fun activity go back to the discussion above regarding value. Consider values as a “bill of rights for relationships”. Create your own bill of rights by writing down a list of your expectations in your ideal relationships.
Allow your teen to grow!
As a teen counselor, I work with teens who struggle with depression, anxiety, and self-esteem. Often teens struggle with the idea of “fitting in” or seeking validation from the wrong places.
Imagine having a cup that has tiny holes at the bottom. Each time the cup is filled with water, it never seems to remain full. Teens often struggle with the idea that external validation like “fitting in” or “perfect grades” will make them feel “good inside”. Yet, what happens is that the initial positive feelings pour out of the cup.
The validation or praise received, never seems like enough.
How to help your teen improve self-esteem?
- Awareness is the key to recognition, without it we can truly become “stuck” in a negative cycle of thoughts and behaviors. Teens can improve their self-esteem by learning the impact of hurtful self-directed statements like “I’m a failure” or “I just can’t do it”. Help your teen by “showing” them when they engage in a destructive behavior versus “judging” the action.
- Mindfulness plays a vital role in helping teens understand how and when judgment is taking place. A fun activity to do with your teen is the “coin jar”. Your teen is to place a coin into the jar each time he or she recognizes the judgment taking place. This activity supports in “recognizing” when judgment takes place and “promoting” a healthy shift in awareness and compassion.
- One of my favorite activities to do with teens is creating clarity. Teens often make statements based on judgment versus compassion. This activity helps teens learn how to shift hurtful judgmental statements to supportive compassionate statements. For instance, “the music you listen to sucks!” versus a healthier alternative “we have a different interest in music”.
- The last strategy to help your teen improve self-esteem is focused on practice, encouragement, and support. Practice each strategy learned with your teen as often as needed. Encourage your teen to shift their viewpoint to one filled with love, kindness, and compassion. Lastly, support your teen along their journey. It’ll be worth it!
Self-Care MUST be a part of your life!
Life is going to have ups and downs. To remain balanced, we must set aside time each day to take care of ourselves. Educating teens on self-care can help them remain centered throughout life and the many difficult moments that lie ahead.
Parents can model self-care habits and behaviors for their teen as a “show and tell” way. Below is a list of self-care therapy strategies that may work for you:
- Do something different that you normally do not do. Pulling your mind away from the normal routine can be extremely therapeutic to the body and mind. Examples include: walking around the mall, cleaning the windows at home or rearranging the bedroom.
- Lending a helping hand to others can help you feel positive and centered. Examples include: writing a thank you note to a friend, making coffee for the family or cleaning up after dinner when it’s not your turn.
- Practicing the art of daydreaming can allow you to get lost in your thoughts. Examples include: thinking about your favorite vacation, imagine yourself flying or counting the number of blue cars that pass by as you sit in the back seat. Or my favorite, thinking about every place you hope to visit.
- Counting your blessings provides a feeling of gratitude. Examples include: comparing your struggles or situation to those less fortunate.
Utilization of the 5 senses allows self-care to take place.
Allowing yourself to explore sensations can create a feeling of change that for some is therapeutic. Examples include for each sense include:
- Vision. Practice watching the clouds and guessing the shape.
- Hearing. Listen to loud music or find a quiet spot deep in the woods.
- Smell. Place your favorite candles near the bathtub. Take a bath and enjoy the scent.
- Taste. Eat a sour food. Sit back and feel the sensations triggered by your taste buds.
- Touch. Slowly pass your hand through tall grass.
Self-Care can help you feel empowered and willing to take on challenging situations. Below is a list of self-care strategies that do not have to wait until tomorrow:
- Vacation. Create a day-cation by spending the day at the pool or walking your favorite trail.
- Create a today-list. Write down everything you want to do today and check off each task as you complete it.
- Meditation. Follow along with a YouTube meditation class.
- Imagination. Create your own space of serenity by imaging yourself at peace. For me, it’s imaging myself at the beach with my toes in the sand!
- Identity. Look at yourself in the mirror. Find the strength! Find the compassion! Find the love!
A life with self-care in it is far better than one without. Modeling self-care enables you to have peace and balance on a regular basis. Teens tend to face adversity and struggle in a manner that requires self-care.
Keep it REAL
At one point in life, maybe now or years back, you experienced the ever-challenging struggle of “fitting in”. Teens often believe that they “must” or “have to” fit in to be “liked” by others. As unrealistic as this is, the reality is that it’s happening. Teens are struggling to learn how to be genuine versus fitting in.
As a professional counselor that truly loves working with teens, the topic of “fitting in” is often one discussed.
How to help your teen be Genuine versus trying to “fit in”
- Genuine + You = Honesty
Teens often have trouble with the social pressures of fitting in due to factors like feeling misunderstood, insecure over rejection, or afraid to allow their identity to shine. Through the practice of encouragement, teens can feel empowered to let their true personality shine!
- Leading by example allows teens to witness firsthand that they too can share their true personality versus hiding behind a mask. Show your teen direct examples of how you are genuine and honest about who you are.
- Encourage your teen to talk about what’s important to them and use their personal interest as channels to connect with others that share similar interest.
- Provide your teen with positive reinforcement by encouraging healthy changes.
- Encourage your teen to engage in one activity per week that builds self-confidence and self-esteem.
Remove the MASK
It’ll be downright impossible to truly build a healthy connection if you are wearing a mask! Help your teen learn that connections are built through genuine sincere practice versus “faking”. This is often a sensitive and vulnerable practice as teens may feel insecure about who they are.
Encourage your teen to explore “feeling vulnerable”. It’s okay!
A great place to start is through family conversation. Sit with your teen and listen to him/her engage in “real” “honest” conversation. Listen and accept without trying to change who they are.
Removing the mask may be a scary and uncomfortable act. Yet, accept that it’s supposed to be scary and uncomfortable. Educate your teen to understand that the mask was an unhealthy protective mask.
A mask hiding their beauty!
This may also be a perfect time for transparency and connection. Parents who have experienced “wearing a mask” may utilize their journey as a way to help and connect with their teen.
A road to acceptance
Encouraging your teen to create healthy relationships with people that “like” them allows acceptance to take place. Healthy relationship is “real” “genuine” relationships. These relationships aid teens in removing their mask and accepting their inner self versus “fitting in”.
A great place to start is at home. Your home can be the perfect place for reinforcing positive behaviors, encouraging healthy relationships, and building confidence.
Take care and talk soon