Couples therapy is probably a little bit different then what you are imagining. Its not a low lit room with an old person staring out at you asking “so how does that make you feel?”. You are not yelling and raging back an forth with your spouse or partner. Their is no referee in the middle pushing you two away.
Couples counseling, marriage counseling, relationship help or support- whatever the name – is simply two people who truly love and care about each other asking for assistance. Two people learning that their are a few things here and their that they want to overcome in order to “get back to loving each other”.
If you think about asking for help when you are stick, “its no big deal”. You simply visit your primary physician and receive the support that you are looking for. Couples counseling is pretty much the same thing.
Common reasons couples seek counseling include:
Infidelity – he cheated! – she cheated!
Time spent together. “He is always working or spending time with his friends”.
Sex and intimacy concerns
“I just can’t let go of the past. He cheated.”
Marriage, companionship and/or relationships are not always as easy as most make them out to be. Often time it can be plain difficult, leaving you feeling distant and disconnected from the person you love and care most about. You might feel enclosed or trapped in a cycle of hopelessness, fear, and anger. You might also experience emotional distance that mirrors mistrust or betrayal. Yet you remain committed in the path that you and your love one have taken.
Couples counseling aims to identify “what the problems are” and how you two can find a common solution to move forward.
“My clients enter separated and exit united”.
If you would like to explore working with Santos Counseling here’s how we can discuss our approach to couple’s counseling. Please call (336) 707 1723 or email. I look forward to hearing from you soon.